The world of BDSM

The world of BDSM

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What does BDSM stand for?

BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M).

The terms are lumped together that way because BDSM can be a lot of different things to different people with different preferences. Most of the time, a person’s interests fall into one or two of those categories, rather than all of them.

BDSM does not always involve sex, but it can.

Most people assume that BDSM is always involves sex, and while it can be for some people, others draw a hard line between the two. “Both are bodily experiences that are very intense and sensual and cause a lot of very strong feelings in people who practice them, but they’re not the same thing.

It’s similar to how people view massage. A massage is just a just a massage however sensual it feels. For others, a massage pretty much always leads to sex. It’s kind of similar with BDSM; it’s a matter of personal and sexual preference.

There is nothing wrong or damaged with people that are into BDSM

One of the most common misconception about BDSM is that people think there is something wrong with the people that practice it. BDSM isn’t something that emerges from abuse or domestic violence, and engaging in it does not mean that you enjoy abuse or abusing. BDSM is just on side of someone’s sexuality. These are regular people who just get turned on that way.

BDSM should only be participated with consent just as regular sex.

There are a lot of people starting out thinking it’s ‘all or nothing,’ especially if they have been only with one partner. For example , they might think that because they enjoyed being submissive under certain circumstances, that means they must agree to a whole host of submissive or masochistic behaviours that they’re not necessarily into.

That’s absolutely wrong. You can — and should — pick and choose which BDSM activities you are and are not interested in. And that can vary depending on the situation, the partner, or even the day. Just remember that consent is a requirement in BDSM, and it’s possible to consent to one thing while still objecting to another.

There is no difference in terms of stability between BDSMers and people who enjoy traditional sex. 

It’s easier for people to get into BDSM if they don’t have a history of abuse, people who are in a more stable place in their lives. A 2008 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that people who had engaged in BDSM in the past year were no more likely to have been coerced into sexual activity and were no more likely to be unhappy or anxious than those who didn’t do BDSM. And actually, men who engaged in BDSM had lower scores of psychological distress than other men.

It’s not all whips and chains all the time.

Sure, some S&M enthusiasts might have these in their arsenal, but it’s definitely not everyone’s cup of kink. Some people go for what’s called ‘sensual dominance,’ which is where there might be some toys or play but no pain involved at all. It’s more like one partner agrees to do everything the other person asks. BDSM doesn’t have to follow any pattern, and there is no one model for what a BDSM relationship can be.

BDSM encounters are called “scenes.”

Since it isn’t always about intercourse, you wouldn’t necessarily say that you “had sex” or “hooked up” with someone after a BDSM experience. Instead, these are called scenes (like, you scened with someone or you had a scene).

It’s an evolution from a time where, if you did S&M, you might only do it with a professional for an hour, or you might just see it performed at a BDSM club. Now people have much more organic relationships, but they still call it a scene.

There are dominants, submissives, tops, and bottoms.

So you’ve probably heard about dominants and submissives (if not, the dominant enjoys being in charge, while the submissive enjoys receiving orders). But BDSMers may also use the terms “tops” and “bottoms” to describe themselves. A top could refer to a dominant or a sadist (someone who enjoys inflicting pain), while a bottom could refer to a submissive or a masochist (someone who enjoys receiving pain). This allows you to have a blanket term for those who generally like being on either the giving or receiving end in a BDSM encounter. And there’s no rule that says you can’t be both dominant and submissive in different circumstances or with different partners.

BDSM Escorts 

When we think of BDSM Escorts we often think of the omnipotent dominatrix, Escorts who offer dominant services, from inflicting pain to safe-space issued humiliation. Escorts Surrey dominatrix also provide services on the other end of the kink spectrum. Escorts Surrey have a growing number of women offering Pro-dom as well as Pro-sub services. Here at Surrey escorts there is no such thing as a ‘typical’ session. Our clients’ interests include impact play (such as spanking); bondage; and sensory deprivation. And each session is bookended with “a lot” of pre-communication – discussing what the client is looking for, their limits, her limits, and what services the escort offers – and a debrief with food and drink and talk.

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